Well mid week has come and gone and we have still not heard the results of the CAS meeting with regards to placing "Sadie" with us as a foster child - until her court case is settled on January 12th. I have e-mailed and called and left messages but I get no where fast. It is incredibly frustrating. I know this probably means "BAD NEWS". I am sure they have decided to leave "Sadie" where she is currently until her fate is decided - but I cannot help but feel this is a wrong decision. We are learning all about bonding and attachment right now (in our PRIDE training) and all the facts support moving the child as soon as possible into her forever home. The longer she stays with her foster family the harder it will be on her when it comes time to move.
We also had a big discussion last night about changing their names and how WRONG it is to do so. I have been feeling this way for a while - but Paul did not agree. I just feel that this little girl has been called "Sadie" for over 10 months now and that is her name - is it right to just take that away from her. Needless to say - I think we are now leaning towards keeping her first given name and changing her middle name. Who knows. All I know is it is way too soon to be thinking about naming her - when we can't even get her to move into her new room until the middle of January. She will be 13 months by then.
I hate that we are missing so much of her life. It breaks my heart knowing she is out there growing and learning everyday and we don't get to be a part of that.
I asked Paul last night if he thought we would end up with her in the end - and he said NO! He said that it has been road block after block and we are no further ahead then we were last March.
He may be right....but I still have faith!!!
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