WHAT??? You didn't really believe that I would not have a "next dilemma" did you?
We are now faced with naming "Sadie". So, no "Sadie" is not her real name nor is it even in the running for "real names" we are considering. The actual dilemma we are facing is should we change the name or not. We have been referring to "Sadie" as "Sadie" for almost a year now. Especially these past few months her name has been referred to a lot. The problem is while we like her birth given name we want to have the privledge of naming her ourselves. I mean just because we were not able to give birth to her, does not mean we should not be able to pick out our daughters name, does it? There are many arguments for and against this and we have heard them all. There is the fact that she is 1 year old and knows her birth given name, and to change it is just another trauma that she does not need to face, but then we think as long as we make the transition gradually then we should be able to come out of this trauma free (for her). The birthmother really wants to know what her name WILL BE. But we cannot answer her as this feels like THE BIGGEST and MOST IMPORTANT decision we might ever make (I know its not but it feels that way). So we are torn. Not to mention the fact that every time we "try a new name on for size" nothing seems to fit - cause she is "Sadie" and I am not sure if we will ever be able to erase that from the forefront. Don't misunderstand us. We would never want to "erase" her past, 'cause if we did change her first name we would always keep "Sadie" as her middle name. Ideally we would like to find something that sounds goods with her current name so that we can use both names (in the beginning) to ease the transition.... The problem is her current name does not tie in well with other names, or if it does we have yet to figure out what names do work with it.
Paul says not to worry once we meet her tomorrow we will just know - but I am not sure it will be that simple. Arghhhhh I hate making decisions that will affect the rest of our life. I suck at decision making to begin with, something this big is going to drive me over the edge.
I hope Paul's right and we just KNOW when we meet her tomorrow.
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Meagan,
We are just thirlled for you!
Congratulations....looking forward to some photos of your precious daughter.
We will be thinking of you all day tomorrow........good luck!
Kim
you know what my vote is and it begins with a K!!!
Whatever name you decide on, it will work eventually... I think you are worrying too much about this! Just choose something and be done with it... She is who she is, regardless of which name you select. You'll be fine! She'll be fine! Otis would quite easily swap to another name at this age, if I were so inclined. They are still very open to whatever you throw at them at 13 months of age.
Rochelle x
Some names don't appear to fit in the beginning. Take Harry for instance, not a great name but since Prince Harry has come along it has grown on me. I know that it seems like a big deal but I agree with Paul, it will be natural once you meet her. I am so anxious to hear about your first meeting! I will be glued to my desk waiting for your call.
I just saw this (I used to check your blog regularly and haven't been online much lately) and am soooo very excited for you and your family! Today is your big day....congratulations!
As for a name - I love the idea of adding something to Sadie and slowly transitioning....you're going to be a great Mommy - already thinking of your baby girl first and foremost.
Again, congratulations!
Megg (and family)
Meag's you've done enough worrying to last a life time. I'm with Paul you will know when you meet her. Let it be a happy event not a stressful one. As for the "transition" plan, I did some minor internet research and it appears nothing traumatic has occured from changing someone's name at a young age.
We completely understand the enormity of the naming decison. They have it the rest of their life!
We waited over 24hrs before finalizing our decision. We kept looking at him while I was holding him & saying different names. Each time we said his it felt more "right" & I started to cry so we just "knew" it was the one for him.
Good luck, you will figure it out.
L&S
congratulations from the Burton's in Australia. have been folloing your Blogg with great interest. Looking forward to some photo's. Helen & John
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