You won't believe this...

We last left off with waiting for Auntie-smokes-a-lot to get back to CAS re: her adoption plans for Sadie. Well as it turns out we didn't even have to wait till Friday December 19th for that answer. She contacted CAS on Tuesday December 16th, and told them that she was one hundred percent not interested in adopting little Sadie. WoooooWhooooooo! So CAS then called me on Tuesday afternoon (just as I was about to step on to an airplane for the next three days) and said "Auntie is out and you guys are IN! Can you come and meet Sadie tomorrow and spend the afternoon with her? ...possibly spend this coming weekend with her as well..."
I could not believe my ears - after all this time and waiting this was really happening - we were finally going to meet our daughter. Unfortunately, Wednesday was not going to work for me as I was just about to leave on a cross Canada tour of duty (airline talk) - so, as much as it pained me to postpone the meeting for one more day, I asked her if we could do it on Thursday instead of Wednesday. She said that would fine and would call me Wednesday with the details.
I called Paul and told him the incredible news (he was over the moon of course) - then We called our moms, our friends/family - hell I even called Sylvie at 2:30 in the morning to share it with her. Can you say we were ecstatic??
So Wednesday, just like clock work, my phones rings with news regarding Thursday's appointment...
...She says "I have some BAD NEWS..."
WHAT? BUT HOW?? THIS CANNOT BE HAPPENING??? NOT AGAIN!!!! NOOOOOOO!
But Yes, THIS was happening AGAIN - CAS had decided it would not be a good idea to go ahead with visits at this time because the birthmom is no longer supporting this adoption plan.
How does that make a difference you ask? Great Question!
We had been told over and over again that it is ultimately not the birthmothers decision where or with who Sadie ends up. While, they appreciate her input - it is ultimately CAS's decision where Sadie ends up and WE have been chosen as THE BEST FAMILY for her. So, no matter how many times the birthmother changes her mind - CAS has the final say as to where this little girl ends up.
All that being said CAS still does not want to 'go behind the birthmothers back and risk upsetting her by starting visits that she does not approve of.'
EUREKA!!! Now I get it - it hits me between the eyes like a hammer!
They don't want to upset 'birthmommy' cause then she may not be so inclined to play by their rules - aka: support the crown wardship. If she decides to contest wardship then CAS will end up in TRIAL. What does TRIAL mean for CAS.???
That's right - TRIAL equals MONEY $$$$$. So for the sake of a few dollars they will let little Sadie sit in TEMPORARY FOSTER CARE (for however long) so as not to upset the "birthmommy-apple-cart". I know what you are thinking... UNBELIEVABLE right!?
It really is unbelievable and if I were you reading this right now I would think the author was making it up for dramatic purpose. But you would be wrong my friends, this is %100 bonifide fact. No Fiction Here!
So to summarise this horror story, this is the third time we have been promised our child only to have her taken away at the 11th hour.
But please make no mistake: Children's Aids primary concern is the best interest of the child. This is clearly evident from my story. Never has there been more proof to support a thesis. (insert Sarcasm tone here)

Paul and I have some serious thinking to do about whether or not we can continue down this road of torture. I know life is not fair - everyone learns this at a ripe young age - but never have we experienced such injustice (over and over and over again).

Perhaps we need to set our bar a little higher. They say you are dealt in life things that you are willing to put up with - so perhaps we should not be so willing to put up with this charade anymore - see what comes of that.

Hmmmm?? That's some food for thought.