Friday, September 26, 2008

Life is like that!

So I didn't think I would be posting here this soon since my last post, as I didn't think I would have anything new to tell you, BUT as it turns out, there is a new chapter to this story of ours.
Isn't that always the way? Just when you think you are heading in one direction life throws you a curve ball and takes you in a completely different direction. I think the universe likes to remind us sometimes who is really in charge.
Seventeen months ago (after my final IVF treatment), when Paul and I first started this adoption journey we were lost. Not knowing what steps to take, feeling overwhelmed about the whole process. I mean I fancied myself quite the fertility expert; but adoption, I was out of my league here. 'Till one day at my dentist's office, I told her about our plans to adopt...She told me she had a patient who had adopted three beautiful children and if I wanted she would pass my number along to her. I thought that was a great idea. I mean who better to talk to about adoption than someone who has been through it three times herself. PERFECT! So five months later *Ann called me. She was great, and we hit it off instantly. She gave me advice on who to register with, contact names, social workers to call...I mean she was a regular encyclopedia of adoption information. Then she told me about her three children and gave me a brief history of their situations, particularly her youngest *Jessica. At that time she even told me that *Jessica's Birth Mother *Tanya was expecting again in December. I filed the information away but never thought much of it. I mean we were just "thinking" about adoption.
Fast forward 4 months later...it's now January and *Jessica's birth mother *Tanya has given birth to a beautiful perfect baby girl named *Sadie. *Tanya has every intention of keeping this child and parenting her, but to *Tania's dismay Children's Aid Society has other plans. *Sadie is placed in foster care. In the meantime *Ann has contacted us and told us of this situation. So Paul and I pressed forward with our adoption plans and got our homestudy completed in record time - Just in case *Tanya did decide to make an adoption plan for *Sadie then we would be ready and willing. It was a long shot at best, but we were hopeful. So hopeful in fact that we went out and bought clothes, a stroller, and a car seat...Hell we even decorated her nursery! I know, I know - crazy!!! But low and behold, we never heard anything from *Tanya, and Paul and I finally had to come to the realization that it was time to move on.
Fast forward again to present day...We just sent in our application for Vietnam. Worse yet, we sent in our $$$$$ to Vietnam. We are on the list, we are happy and waiting for approval...
Then out of the blue I get an email from *Ann. She says that *Tanya has asked her if we would still be interested in adopting little *Sadie. You could have knocked me over with a feather. I mean we had given up on that scenario all together. But when you ask the universe for something it never stops working for you...sometimes it takes a little longer, but it does its best to get you what you asked for. So, 9 months after this whole thing began we have come full circle. *Tanya is considering us to parent *Sadie, and the best part is, that CAS appears to be on board as well. They feel it is in the best interest of *Sadie to keep close ties with *Jessica (her biological sister), and because of the friendship that *Ann and I had cultivated, we made a promise to keep the girls close to each other.
Update: CAS just called me a few minutes ago and they are going to try and squeeze us into their PRIDE class (that we must take in order to adopt any child from CAS)..so that is good news. I doubt they would go to that trouble if they did not think we were a good match for *Sadie.
So to wrap up, two days ago we were just another couple on the road to adoption, knowing it would take two years or more before we would bring our little girl home from Vietnam. Now we are hopeful to be parents by Christmas. Life Is Just Like That I Guess!!!

*The names in this story have been changed to protect their privacy.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hopefully you guys will be receiving the best Christmas present EVER this year ....... a little girl named *Sadie
XO - Auntie Brenda

Meagan said...

Here is hoping!! Thanks Auntie Brenda.